Manly Man's Men -- AKA WTF Gender Roles

A man decided to tell me today that I needed a man's man. I asked him to explain more. He said I needed someone who would pull my hair, wouldn't ask for permission and wouldn't want to talk about his feelings. I nodded intrigued, but really I'm like WTF WHY WOULD I EVER WANT THAT?? Aside from the fact that I really don't like rough sex, (Presumably that's what the pulling my hair and not asking for permission thing was about) this sounds like the most boring, confusing, chock full of resentment hypothetical relationship I could ever conjure up.

A relationship should be a partnership, not some weird play where one half tries desperately never to show the characteristics of the other half, which he thinks are weak and inferior. If its so inferior to be feminine, why are you continuously drawn to it? Why do you want my crying, emotion feeling, hairless, over makeup-ed body so much if its so abhorrent to you? (for the record I am not hairless or makeup-ed , not that there's anything wrong with that, more just the standard of that) Maybe you should do the real manly thing and just have manly rough emotionless sex with other manly rough emotionless men.

This confuses me greatly, because even though the men I dated had plenty of stereotypically masculine characteristics. They seemed way more nuanced and equal and smart than the men this guy describes. The world this guy describes sounds like a gross crisscrossed place where people are constantly being tempted and then loathing themselves for giving into the simplest urge or desire. Where women 'rope' men into a stale relationship and marriage, and men 'trick' women into having one-sided sex with them. Which would just continually cycle into the same feelings over and over until eternity.

Imagine a world with guys wearing skirts, crying when they hold their newborn baby for the first time, women had multiple orgasms, didn't feel like they shouldn't have sex on the first date, people had open and honest discussions about their relationship problems.

And you man's men can talk about all those girly girly men with their long eyelashes, and pretty, soft, uncalloused skin, and thin muscle-less bodies wearing ladies panties...like that's supposed to be an insult or something. Sounds like heaven to me.