Orgasms!

Being a woman, figuring out the line between good feels and orgasms can be difficult. We don't frequently have ejaculate to 'mark' when we come. Sometimes there's small tremors, or a great big one, a few orgasms, or a plateau and no orgasms. It sometimes makes it really challenging to answer "Did you come?" I find my instinctual answer is, "Does it really matter?" If I say we should stop, I'm probably satisfied in some way or another, so does it really matter?

I find that guys find the concept of making girls come to be extremely important to their success as a man or something. It's something I often forget, not being a man, but it's so common in my experience for a partner to apologize or feel badly after a sexual encounter. And It makes me really start to understand why women fake orgasms. I mean, sometimes the line is so thin between orgasm or not, that to fake it doesn't actually require that much more effort. Simply responding yes to "did you come?" has a similar effect of making a guy feel good or manly versus bad or not enough. And it makes me wonder, what is wrong with our ideas on sex??

Why do we feel that there is a 'right way' to have sexual intercourse? Why do we think that there is a start and finish to every sexual encounter that's so cut and dry? And really, why does everything have to be cut and dry to begin with? Can't there be an inbetween? Yeah maybe I did want to come, but I was tired and I like being close to you? Or I wasn't really turned on much to begin with, but I liked the sensations regardless.

Anyways, I had my first set of somethings that I may definitively be able to call an orgasm. The thrashing, yelling, spasming kind. It was really cool, but it unsurprisingly hasn't invalidating any of my previous sexual experiences or relationships.