A disorganized rant

I wish that guys understood how stifling and damaging it is to have your entire gender's sexuality be written off. That all mainstream sexuality presentation focuses always on the women, on the women's body, on its appearance and performance. It is always viewed from the men's perspective. There is so much leeway given to the background person, they can look different, act differently, be different than the norm - as long as they have a dick. It puts a lot of pressure on woman, because just to simply exist as a sexual object requires a lot of work. Perfect hair, makeup, boobs, labia, smooth hairless skin, stretchy vagina, perfect voice and perfect orgasms. And on top of that, we aren't actually supposed to like sex. Unless its sexily forced upon us. In which case its okay to like it, because of some secret desire to be dominated.

I consider myself to have pretty mild sexual tastes. I crave neither domination nor submission. I like a man to go down on me, I return the favor. I like things to be slow and gentle, I like there to be a lot of skin to skin contact. I like it when I man makes noise. I like body hair. I like having body hair.

And yet, finding media with these things in it is really hard. Disappointingly so. But by stating my opinion, I am making some sort of ripple in the waters of mainstream sexual doom. I am a woman: I like sex. I like watching people have it. I like jerking off to it, because I like jerking off. I get horny, just like every other sexual human. And you know what? I have frizzy hair, acne, a low manly voice, pubic hair, big uneven labia, a broken vagina and an orgasm that's hidden deep within a temple of doom that even I can't access.

But you know what? I'm plenty sexy, and desirable to others. And it's taken me many years to get to that point. Sexiness is a mindset, not an outfit.