Bodily cooperation

At some point in time, our bodies have failed to do what we wanted to. For a person like me, my body has failed me nearly every time I try to get intimate. But despite the overwhelming narrative that declares stellar performance each and every time the clothes come off, I'm here to be the voice of reason. It's okay to enjoy sexual contact even when you don't come, when neither parties have the right parts lining up, (Soft dick, tight vagina...) when there isn't enough lube, when you're too nervous. Sometimes, life interferes and we have to just enjoy the feelings as they are. The warmth of skin to skin contact, the love and trust between partners, the sensations of genital contact. These feelings in and of themselves are comforting and valid regardless of how it ends. Particularly if they are mutually shared feelings. I think that if the majority of people felt this way, there would be a lot more loving going on, naked sweaty loving just for the sake of loving. The zero sum love game doesn't do anybody any favors.