Control

It seems that everything in mainstream sexuality is about control. Domination, owning, degradation. I'm supposed to like penetration from a secret nasty desire to be dominated*. I'm supposed to want dick in my ass, cum on my face, getting spanked, because of a secret desire to be controlled.

But what if I decide that I like all of these things? And I like them because it feels good. Or maybe because it feels good to please my partner. Or maybe, amazingly enough it feels good for both of us? I don't know, I'm just going out on a limb here.

I don't want anyone to own my body. Heck, I don't even own my own body. I just want someone to pleasure me. It's really that simple. I am not an object. I'm a person. I like to feel good. I like to touch and explore and experience new feelings.

*I should clarify, I am not speaking of specific dom/sub relationships. I'm referring specifically to the strange widespread belief that all relationships between men and women are inherently dom/sub with women always playing the submissive role.